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  • beaded ace hippocampus

    Some time ago I found this incredible beaded hippocampus pattern and I knew I needed one. Well, actually at the time of this post I already made three 😁

    Today I’ll show you one of them, my ace hippocampus, inspired by the colours from the asexuality pride flag.

    Asexual flag, designed in 2010

    black: asexuality
    grey: grey-asexuality and demisexuality
    white: non-asexual partners and allies
    purple: community

    Since a hippocampus is a mixture of a horse with a fish’s tail, I chose beads that most resembled the texture of these two parts. The beads for the mane are black opaque matte while the coat is grey colour lined, also with a matted finish. The fish tail is white opaque with a lustered finish which makes the beads extra shiny, while the fins are purple transparent with silver lining.

    “Ain’t I cute?”

    Source: from the German book Fantastische Mini-Perlentiere by Christiane Brüning

  • being aroace

    me not wanting to have kids
    me not feeling attraction
    me not understanding what all the fuss is about
    me failing to express myself
    why do I have to reproduce?
    why do I need to fall in love?
    why do I want to exchange bodily fluids?
    me failing to understand expectations
    me finding words
    me finding support
    me finding resources
    me finally able to talk
    me knowing I don't need to do anything
    me knowing there are others like me
    me knowing that I can contribute
    me feeling proud to be asexual

  • AroAce of haiku

    butterflies
    in the stomach being near to a person
    not happening

    — aromanticism

    not feeling
    this strange, driving urge
    inherent to most

    — asexuality

  • Asexual Awareness Week 2025

    The Asexual Awareness Week, or Ace Week for short, is an annual event for raising awareness and fostering understanding about asexuality. It usually takes place in the last week of October and includes a lot of different activities online and offline.

    This year’s Asexual Awareness Week takes place from 19.10. – 25.10.2025 and with the hashtag #AceAwarenessWeek resources and experiences can be shared and brought together.

    To answer the question “What is asexuality?” I want to cite the definition from AVEN, the Asexual Visibility and Education Network:

    An asexual person is a person who
    does not experience sexual attraction.

    Of course, this is just a very short definition and asexuality differs from person to person. If you want more information on this topic I recommend a visit to AVEN. They have a very comprehensive questions and answers site as well as a lot of personal insights and a whole page full of further resources.
    A book I highly recommend is “The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality” by Julie Sondra Decker, ISBN 978-1634502436. You can buy it from any bookstore, so please consider supporting your local books seller.

    For me being asexual, or ace for short, means that I don’t feel sexual attraction or any desire to get intimate with anybody. I never experienced arousal just by looking at someone. I know the meaning behind the term “hot person”, but do not feel it. Never have, never will.

    On a metaphysical level I accumulated some knowledge about sex and sexuality in general, but this is purely on an intellectual level. It allows me to gain an understanding why sex is so prevalent in our society. Also I’m more than capable of talking about the concept or how people experience arousal themselves. What I don’t need are the juicy details of one’s personal sex live, that is too much insight. Same goes for sex scenes in films/movies or books. Usually I just ignore them by looking away or speed read over the corresponding paragraphs since they usually don’t add anything meaningful to the story.

    Does that mean that I feel lonely? No, I have close relationships based upon mutual interests and with people I can have stimulating conversations with.

    This was just a short introduction post and more on this topic will follow this week. Also feel free to check out the resources I mentioned above or click on the links below.

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