me not wanting to have kids
me not feeling attraction
me not understanding what all the fuss is about
me failing to express myself
why do I have to reproduce?
why do I need to fall in love?
why do I want to exchange bodily fluids?
me failing to understand expectations
me finding words
me finding support
me finding resources
me finally able to talk
me knowing I don't need to do anything
me knowing there are others like me
me knowing that I can contribute
me feeling proud to be asexual
butterflies
in the stomach being near to a person
not happening
— aromanticism
not feeling
this strange, driving urge
inherent to most
— asexuality
The Asexual Awareness Week, or Ace Week for short, is an annual event for raising awareness and fostering understanding about asexuality. It usually takes place in the last week of October and includes a lot of different activities online and offline.
This year’s Asexual Awareness Week takes place from 19.10. – 25.10.2025 and with the hashtag #AceAwarenessWeek resources and experiences can be shared and brought together.
To answer the question “What is asexuality?” I want to cite the definition from AVEN, the Asexual Visibility and Education Network:
An asexual person is a person who
does not experience sexual attraction.
Of course, this is just a very short definition and asexuality differs from person to person. If you want more information on this topic I recommend a visit to AVEN. They have a very comprehensive questions and answers site as well as a lot of personal insights and a whole page full of further resources.
A book I highly recommend is “The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality” by Julie Sondra Decker, ISBN 978-1634502436. You can buy it from any bookstore, so please consider supporting your local books seller.
For me being asexual, or ace for short, means that I don’t feel sexual attraction or any desire to get intimate with anybody. I never experienced arousal just by looking at someone. I know the meaning behind the term “hot person”, but do not feel it. Never have, never will.
On a metaphysical level I accumulated some knowledge about sex and sexuality in general, but this is purely on an intellectual level. It allows me to gain an understanding why sex is so prevalent in our society. Also I’m more than capable of talking about the concept or how people experience arousal themselves. What I don’t need are the juicy details of one’s personal sex live, that is too much insight. Same goes for sex scenes in films/movies or books. Usually I just ignore them by looking away or speed read over the corresponding paragraphs since they usually don’t add anything meaningful to the story.
Does that mean that I feel lonely? No, I have close relationships based upon mutual interests and with people I can have stimulating conversations with.
This was just a short introduction post and more on this topic will follow this week. Also feel free to check out the resources I mentioned above or click on the links below.
Links
Thank you so much for accompanying me on this incredible journey. At the beginning of July when I set out I never dreamed of reaching 100 posts. And now, here we are!
To celebrate this occasion, let’s have a quick review of what happened so far:
Wow, look at this word cloud! It is incredible!
And for all the data nerds out there let’s have a more detailed look, shall we 😄
According to WordPress as of today there are 100 posts in 13 different categories and with over 100 tags. The most used category is “poetry” with 59 posts, the second place “weekly review” with 15 posts is far behind. The top two tags are “life” with 20 posts and “haiku” with 18 posts respectively.
The three most popular posts are “books“, “game of life” and “hoarding haiku“.
If you missed one of them or need a quick refresher or are just curious, click the links above ☝️
I gathered and analysed these insights out of curiosity but it was never my intention to limit myself to them. So I will continue publishing what comes to mind, piques my curiosity or looks like a lot of fun. 😁 To give you a hint what to expect, the next two weeks will each feature a distinct theme.
Thank you so much for your continued support and I’ll see you around.
a ghostly chorus
surrounding, enveloping
mocking you
— noise in the dark
something's here
yet to be seen
remaining untouched
— feeling a presence
in cooperation with a rhyming snail
I love to watch you glisten
and how you bob and swerve
now stop telling me to listen
you get on my fucking nerve
— Navy
Every time I take a step
you demand to have a word
but if I walk into a trap
you're a silent, useless sword
— Fi
These beaded penguins were inspired by the video game series Fallout featuring a ghoul, a glowing one and a radioactively contaminated penguin, whom a third arm is growing out of it’s belly.
I chose those beads especially to highlight the individual traits of the characters depicted: Marbled beads for the ghoul, glowing-in-the-dark beads for the glowing one and neon green beads for the contaminated penguin.
tireless (comparative more tireless, superlative most tireless)
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