hello, it’s me, your inner voice
I’m here to remind you, that you can’t do that
you’re not qualified enough
you’re lacking ambition
you haven’t what it takes to do that
nobody will give a shit
it won’t work
don’t bother even trying
it is futile, so why even start?
come on, we both know you can’t do that
what, if something went wrong?
you know what? it is pointless
…
me not wanting to have kids
me not feeling attraction
me not understanding what all the fuss is about
me failing to express myself
why do I have to reproduce?
why do I need to fall in love?
why do I want to exchange bodily fluids?
me failing to understand expectations
me finding words
me finding support
me finding resources
me finally able to talk
me knowing I don't need to do anything
me knowing there are others like me
me knowing that I can contribute
me feeling proud to be asexual
The Asexual Awareness Week, or Ace Week for short, is an annual event for raising awareness and fostering understanding about asexuality. It usually takes place in the last week of October and includes a lot of different activities online and offline.
This year’s Asexual Awareness Week takes place from 19.10. – 25.10.2025 and with the hashtag #AceAwarenessWeek resources and experiences can be shared and brought together.
To answer the question “What is asexuality?” I want to cite the definition from AVEN, the Asexual Visibility and Education Network:
An asexual person is a person who
does not experience sexual attraction.
Of course, this is just a very short definition and asexuality differs from person to person. If you want more information on this topic I recommend a visit to AVEN. They have a very comprehensive questions and answers site as well as a lot of personal insights and a whole page full of further resources.
A book I highly recommend is “The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality” by Julie Sondra Decker, ISBN 978-1634502436. You can buy it from any bookstore, so please consider supporting your local books seller.
For me being asexual, or ace for short, means that I don’t feel sexual attraction or any desire to get intimate with anybody. I never experienced arousal just by looking at someone. I know the meaning behind the term “hot person”, but do not feel it. Never have, never will.
On a metaphysical level I accumulated some knowledge about sex and sexuality in general, but this is purely on an intellectual level. It allows me to gain an understanding why sex is so prevalent in our society. Also I’m more than capable of talking about the concept or how people experience arousal themselves. What I don’t need are the juicy details of one’s personal sex live, that is too much insight. Same goes for sex scenes in films/movies or books. Usually I just ignore them by looking away or speed read over the corresponding paragraphs since they usually don’t add anything meaningful to the story.
Does that mean that I feel lonely? No, I have close relationships based upon mutual interests and with people I can have stimulating conversations with.
This was just a short introduction post and more on this topic will follow this week. Also feel free to check out the resources I mentioned above or click on the links below.
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too bright
too dim
too loud
too noisy
too pungent
too fragrant
too bland
too savory
too hot
too cold
too tight
too loose
too crowded
too cramped
too much sensory input
every day
What often can be seen:
Child: Why? - question
Parent : Because ... - answer
Child: Why answer? - more questions
Parent: Because ... - more answers
Child: Why? - even more questions
Parent: I don't know, stop asking questions.
What ideally would happen:
Child: Why? - question
Parent : Because ... - answer
Child: Why answer? - more questions
Parent: I'm not sure. Let's find out together!
It starts drilling holes in concrete
The drilling is very loud and noisy
You put in ear plugs
They lessen the noise
The construction site starts working on metal
The smell is awful and stings the nose
Your defense is lowered
You close the window
The smell subsides
The noise can still be heard
The construction site continues its
barrage for hours on end
You can’t take no more and succumb
to the onslaught on your senses
You feel your energy completely depleted
and need to rest, unable to do anything else
for the remainder of the day …
ask me my pronouns (they/them)
and use them
ask me how I identify
and respect that
before asking me an intimate question
ask yourself if you would feel comfortable answering that
if I decline to answer a question
accept my refusal
if you are interested in my experiences
ask about them and I'm happy to share
remember, be open minded
and treat others the way you want to be treated
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic or if you have any questions feel free to leave a comment.
Maybe we should reconsider our cultural definition of excitement?
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